Husband’s, What Do They Want Anyway…Part 3
WATCH THE CRITISISM:
It takes many kind words to overcome the damage of one criticism. Choose your words wisely and don’t sweat the small stuff. Passiveness IS strength. However, do not allow hurt feelings and irritations to build up – such refrain will end in emotional explosion. These never turn out well.
Timing is everything. Choose a time when thing are going well to bring up areas of dissension. Pray about how you will disclose the issue(s) you wish to bring up prior to speaking with your spouse – better yet, pray with your spouse. Never choose a time to speak when your spouse if under stress already, especially when your request is going to add to his already overwhelming schedule. Always remember, no multiple dumping.
It is always better to allow your frustrations to turn to tears rather than allowing your defense mechanisms to show your anger. Anger results in name calling and blaming which only gets your husbands back up, when tears brings you closer to the heart of the matter. After all, it is usually the feeling of hurt which is the real issue, the anger you feel is the army of your heart, and that means “fight mode”!
Do not belittle his complements to you. Say “thank you” and accept them to be true.
REMEMBER YOU THINK DIFFERENTLY:
You may think differently but you are of equal value in front of the Lord. The Holy Spirit lives within you both, and you need to remember that when you speak to your spouse you are also speaking to the Holy Spirit. An interesting angle wouldn’t you say?
Women are all about AFFECTION & CONVERSATION
Men are all about COMPANIONSHIP & SEX
TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR BODY:
This means inside and out.