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BY Sherri

Good news for all those married couples out there who use martial aids, (vibrators, bullets, eggs, etc.) to enhance their love-making— the idea that frequent and regular use of these items causes desensitization or numbness of the clitoris, preventing women from achieving orgasm during intercourse, is false. In fact, continuing to use these items helps women increase their clitoral sensations, improving the quality of their orgasms. It is important for husbands and wives to explore their bodies, discovering what feels good to them. It is learning what feels good that takes us one step closer toward teaching your spouse how to please you.

Since some incorrectly believe that using vibrators desensitizes the clitoris, many couples also fear adding vibrators to their sexual repertoire. While some women may experience some mild discomfort after long or vigorous use of a vibrator, they would also feel this discomfort after a long vigorous regular love making session, yet hurray - the effect is only temporary. Using vibrators also causes no long-term risk of clitoral desensitization. So a woman’s body will respond with pleasure once again to her husband’s fingers, vibrator, partner’s touch, etc.

Some couples express concern over introducing sex toys into their sexual play. They are fearful that their partner may begin to prefer the new stimulation rather than regular intercourse, or that a particular toy could replace them, particularly a toy of a larger size.

Michael Castleman, author of Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the Secret Principals of Total Body Sex, reminds men that “even the best carpenters use power tools.” Vibrators and dildos etc., may help some woman reach orgasm or orgasm faster, or possibly provide a new and exciting type of stimulation to a couple’s sexual activities. Marital Aids, however, can’t vocalize one’s desire, be emotionally supportive, hug, or kiss a partner, all extremely important qualities to most women in the sexual arena. They are enhancements, not substitutes or replacements that can allow one partner to please the other in a new, different, and/or enhanced way. They can never and will never take the place of the emotional, spiritual human bond and intimacy that you and your partner share.

In addition, only about 30 percent or less, of women orgasm through penile-vaginal intercourse alone. Because the nerve endings are in the clitoris, and not the vagina, using hands, fingers, a vibrator, or even pubic bones and hips to place pressure on these areas are essential to pleasure the clitoris during intercourse or sexual play which increases the chance for a woman to orgasm.

The use of sexual aids can relieve stress (or worry of not being able to achieve an orgasm), save a little time in a pinch, teach each other about the other’s body, and can give their spouse another dimension of pleasure. In a healthy sexual relationship, fears about desensitization or of a partner being “replaced” by a sex toy are nothing to be concerned about. So feel worry free to explore the pleasures that come from exploring your spouse’s body — married couples can vibrate to their heart’s and clitoris’s content.