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COMMUNICATION EXERCISE

December 1st, 2006

1. Have a discussion with each other going over the different areas of your marriage where daily communication has been a problem? What areas of your marriage trip you up? What areas have you conquered?

2. As your husband or wife, how you rate out of 10 (ten be the best), how you speak to build them up? What areas of their lives could they use your cheerleading skills more? What would this look like?

3. <What your actions say are not necessarily negative. Think of several ways you can tell your spouse you love them without using words. Each make your own list separately. Do not share them for a week, but instead, make them a reality. Make a date time a week later to get together and see if the two of you can guess what each other put on their list.

OUR SPOUSE’S "NEEDS" WORK SHEET

November 30th, 2006

 

Print out the following exercise writing your answers on the line for H(husband) or W(wife) – Rate from 1-10 (1 being the most important to you.

Affection – I want my spouse to send cards, write me notes, give gifts, take walks with me, hug and kiss me, call me on the phone just to say “I love you”. H:_________W:__________

Sexual Fulfillment – I want my spouse regularly and enthusiastically to join me I sexual “lovemaking”. H:_________W:__________

Communication – I want my spouse to share thoughts, feelings and experiences in a meaningful way and to listen as I do the same.

H:__________W:__________

Leadership – I want my spouse to take leadership in our home and not leave all the initiative to me. Take the lead in family devotions.

H:_________W:__________

Financial Security – I want to have enough money for us to live comfortably. I want us to be partners in financial decisions.

H:_________W:__________

Recreational Intimacy – I want my spouse to join me in recreational or creative activities we both can enjoy together.

H:_________W:__________

Attractiveness of spouse – I want my spouse to give attention to the way they look. I don’t want them to be careless about appearance.

Honesty and Openness – I want my spouse to tell me the truth and not lie to protect my feelings. H:_________W:__________

Domestic Support – I want my spouse to “have things under control at home.” Each member will do their share, but I want my spouse responsible for seeing that the house is in order.

H:__________W:___________

Security – I want my spouse to strand up for me and defend me when I am verbally attacked by others. I want my spouse to make our home as safe as possible from criminals.

H:__________W:___________

Family Time – I want my spouse to spend quality and quantity time with family. To give time to activities the kids enjoy.

H:__________W:___________

Admiration – I want my spouse to express appreciation for what I do. I want them to focus on my positive accomplishments, not my weaknesses respect me as a responsible person. H:____________W:_____________

Interdependence – I want my spouse to have a life apart from me, aspirations that are uniquely theirs as well as work with me on common goals. H:____________W:_____________

Compiled from an article “What Does my Mate Need” Gary D. Chapman & adapted from “Friends for Life” Bob and Yvonne Turnbull.

Marriage:The Most Important Things In Marriage

November 29th, 2006

When it comes to marriage, there are things that you are responsible for doing that are so important to the marriages success. But, we could list an endless list of these things. Instead, though, lets talk about those things that are most important in marriage.

The most important aspect of marriage is communication. If you can not talk to your spouse, your marriage will have no room for growth. Communication builds trust as well. It is important to maintain a good trusting, marriage. Communicating your feelings and needs will keep your marriage pumping forward!

Another important thing in marriage is having a firm foundation. Like a building the foundation of a marriage is what keeps it from falling apart. The most important aspect really is what your marriage is built on. Your values, morals, and beliefs are the foundation for your marriage. If you and your spouse cant agree here, well, things are going to be shaking in your marriage.

Other things that are important in marriage include being understanding, honesty, and forgiveness. Without these things, your marriage will not survive long. Instead, you will constantly question your marriage foundations.

It is important to take into consideration all of these things. Marriage is built on trust, love, and friendship. How many of these things are in your marriage? How many of these things do you need to work on to have a successful relationship? Marriage is always the first priority. For more on this topic, visit http://www.getdatingtips.com.

S A Baker is staff writer at http://www.getdatingtips.com.

Cherish Your Wife:A Gift for Your Wife

November 20th, 2006



Finding the perfect gift for your wife is probably one of the most difficult things for a husband to do. It is very frustrating to spend serious time looking for the perfect gift for your wife and see a look of disappointment on her face when she opens her gift. Below I have listed a few ideas that might help you find the perfect gift for your wife.


A gift for your wife is much harder to think of, than it is to find. Start thinking early, July is a good time to start thinking about Christmas. Asking your wife for gift ideas is a good way to get a start. When you ask listen to what she says, write it down, and then listen to her hints. When ever she says ‘look honey isnt this nice’ she means it so write it down on your list. Take her ideas and use them to find the perfect gift.


Diamonds are womans best friend and a perfect gift for your wife. Though they are expensive they will light up her face like nothing else. The setting of the diamond can almost double the effect that the diamond will have on your wife. Diamonds can be set in earrings, necklaces, or even put in her wedding band. It is also important to give the diamond when the moment is right. So put some thought into how you are going to give you wife a diamond.


For those of us who cant afford a diamond, breakfast in bed will make a great gift for your wife go a long way. The key to making this word is to surprise her and then keep surprising her all day. Do everything you can think of to make it her day, do the dishes, take her out to dinner or even write her a love note. Do whatever it is that you think she will appreciate. Then top it off with a small gift at the end of the day.


A gift for your wife doesnt have to be big or well planned if done spontaneously. A simple rose or bouquet of flowers can make a huge impact if you do it unexpectedly. My wife told me of a man that bought a dozen rose for his wife every week. She then commented that she wouldnt like that because there was no surprise. Women love to be pleasantly surprised. However you surprise your wife try to make it special and make it look like you planned the whole thing.


When looking for a gift for your wife, make it thoughtful and fun. She will love you all the more for it. Diamonds, breakfast in bed, and flowers are just a few of the things that work as a gift for your wife. There are so many ways to surprise her and let her know that you care. Just try to make it something that she will brag to her friends about and start early.

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Things:52 Free Things to Do with Your Partner on Date Night

November 12th, 2006

FALL

40. Go for a drive together.

41. Go window shopping.

42. Incorporate food into your love making—chocolate syrup, whipped cream, fondue, strawberries—anything you and your partner enjoy.

43. Call or write to someone you haven’t had contact with in a while.

44. Cook something together.

45. Spend an evening just talking with each other. Talk about the things you have done, plans you have for the future, important people in your lives or current events.

46. Take a bubble bath together.

47. Go to a free movie or museum.

48. Take a drive and find the potential in old houses and their properties.

49. Create an imaginary story together—either orally or in written form.

50. Take turns being each other’s genie in a bottle by fulfilling your partner’s every wish and fantasy.

51. Play in the fallen leaves.

52. Create an exciting scavenger hunt that ends in your bed.

Now you have 52 suggestions for things to do with your partner for every week of the year divided by season. Certainly you dont have to follow my suggestions. Feel free to add your own or to repeat your favorites as often as youd like.

The main point is not to see how kinky you can get. The idea is to keep your relationship alive by making time together a priority. It is important that you find things to do as a couple that you can both enjoy. If you have vastly different interests then you can enter this with the spirit of taking turns and each agree to happily participate in the activity chosen by the one whose turn it is that week.

As long as you make a habit of making your relationship a priority and allocating time each week for rejuvenation of the feelings that attracted you in the first place, then you stand a good chance of staying together for the long haul.

Please dont let insidious boredom enter into your relationship through the back door. This is what frequently happens when we are busy placing other things ahead of our time for each other. You know what I mean—the job, the kids, our friend in crisis, etc. There will always be a competing interest for the time youve set aside for each other.

Other than natural disasters, threat of death or major crises, do not allow your time together to be invaded by any outside forces. Make sure to create opportunities for you to do things together without outside influence. With more than 50% of today’s marriages ending in divorce, make this small investment in the longevity of your relationship. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Whats stopping you? Start today.WINTER

1. Take a drive to look at the Christmas decorations.

2. Play cards—perhaps strip poker.

3. Watch a movie together.

4. Go outside and have a snowball fight.

5. Get some finger paints and create your own body art with each other as your canvass.

6. Go sleigh riding.

7. Go ice skating.

8. Work out or exercise together.

9. Stage your own improvisation show.

10. Sing to each other.

11. Review or create a photo album or scrapbook of your memories together.

12. Play a board game—perhaps chess, Scrabble or Twister.

13. Go to a book store, get coffee and read for hours.


Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power by living from the inside out, focusing their time and energy on only those things they can control. She also helps people improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives. She offers free chats, assessments, a blog and an eZine, as well as workshops, teleclasses, e-courses, counseling and coaching. Visit her website at http://www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz or contact her at (708) 957-6047.

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:Finding a Babysitter - Tips for New Parents

November 12th, 2006

New parents face many challenges when they bring their baby home from the hospital. Dealing with nightly feedings and changing dirty diapers are the easy ones. Finding a competent babysitter for when you are ready to go out alone is one of the harder ones. But it doesn’t have to be difficult. It just takes a little time and patience.

In this day and age, most people don’t have the luxury of having their parents just up the street from them. Many children move away when they leave home, sometimes thousands of miles away. So having Mom or Dad watch the little ones isn’t feasible. So, where do parents go to find someone trustworthy to babysit their child?


Friends and family are a good place to start. Who watches your best friend’s kids? Ask friends and family in the area if they know of anyone who babysits and get their number. Your friends with children are great resources for finding a sitter. But even a friend who is childless might know of a sitter in the area. Ask around and you’ll be amazed.

Church and Activity groups are another place to ask. Many churches have a list of members who babysit. Activity groups do too. Many of these have newsletters with the sitter’s names and numbers. Be sure to ask other members if they have used a sitter, and what they think of that person’s abilities, etc.

Neighbors are wonderful resources for finding a sitter. Especially ones with young children. Ask around and see who is sitting for that young child across the street. You can get a recommendation while getting their number. If the parent is leery about giving you their sitter’s name, offer to give your name and number to them to pass on.

Other places to try are bulletin boards at grocery stores, community centers, hospitals and even the classified section of your local paper. Many sitters advertise in these places as a way to get clients without spending a lot of money. Also try the local community college and high school for references.

When you find one, be sure to ask questions. You should screen any person who is going to be taking care of your children, even if they’ve been recommended by a trusted friend. Your children’s safety is very important. Some questions you should ask are:

What is their full name?
Are they trained in CPR?
Do they have any children of their own?
How long have they been babysitting?
What is the youngest child they’ve sat for? The oldest?


Also, check them out on your local police sexual offender lists. Finding out if someone is a child molester is easier now than ever before. Most police departments have part of their web site dedicated to listing and searching for pedophiles. Use these resources to make sure your sitter hasn’t been convicted of a crime against a child. It’s better to know than not to know!

Once you find a sitter, and you’ve checked them out, introduce them to your child while you are there. Observe how they interact with your child, how your child interacts with them. Make sure you leave plenty of time to let both become comfortable before you leave. You will enjoy yourself more if you know your child is happy with your choice of a sitter. A good babysitter means parents can go out and have a nice, relaxing time away from home knowing their child is in good hands.

Dawn Arkin is a stay-at-home Mom who writes in her spare time. This article has been submitted in affiliation with http://www.BabyNameVote.Com/ which is a site for Baby Names.

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