OUR SPOUSE’S "NEEDS" WORK SHEET
Print out the following exercise writing your answers on the line for H(husband) or W(wife) – Rate from 1-10 (1 being the most important to you.
Affection – I want my spouse to send cards, write me notes, give gifts, take walks with me, hug and kiss me, call me on the phone just to say “I love you”. H:_________W:__________
Sexual Fulfillment – I want my spouse regularly and enthusiastically to join me I sexual “lovemaking”. H:_________W:__________
Communication – I want my spouse to share thoughts, feelings and experiences in a meaningful way and to listen as I do the same.
H:__________W:__________
Leadership – I want my spouse to take leadership in our home and not leave all the initiative to me. Take the lead in family devotions.
H:_________W:__________
Financial Security – I want to have enough money for us to live comfortably. I want us to be partners in financial decisions.
H:_________W:__________
Recreational Intimacy – I want my spouse to join me in recreational or creative activities we both can enjoy together.
H:_________W:__________
Attractiveness of spouse – I want my spouse to give attention to the way they look. I don’t want them to be careless about appearance.
Honesty and Openness – I want my spouse to tell me the truth and not lie to protect my feelings. H:_________W:__________
Domestic Support – I want my spouse to “have things under control at home.” Each member will do their share, but I want my spouse responsible for seeing that the house is in order.
H:__________W:___________
Security – I want my spouse to strand up for me and defend me when I am verbally attacked by others. I want my spouse to make our home as safe as possible from criminals.
H:__________W:___________
Family Time – I want my spouse to spend quality and quantity time with family. To give time to activities the kids enjoy.
H:__________W:___________
Admiration – I want my spouse to express appreciation for what I do. I want them to focus on my positive accomplishments, not my weaknesses respect me as a responsible person. H:____________W:_____________
Interdependence – I want my spouse to have a life apart from me, aspirations that are uniquely theirs as well as work with me on common goals. H:____________W:_____________
Compiled from an article “What Does my Mate Need” Gary D. Chapman & adapted from “Friends for Life” Bob and Yvonne Turnbull.